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Join BayAreaParent magazine and us,
Patt & Steve Saso, at the following seminar:

 “Steps to Teaching Your Teen Respect”

    Thursday, March 18, 2010
    7 – 9 pm
    Bellarmine College Prep, San Jose (chapel)
 
Call to reserve your $10 advanced tickets:

   BayAreaParent @ 408.399.4842 ext. 24

Or $20 at the door

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March 2010 Featured Article
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Raising a Respectful Teen
By Patt Saso
www.SasoSeminars.com

Many parents experience their teens as more
“mouthy” and less respectful than in past
generations. You might be t hinking to yourself,
I would never have talked to my parent the
way my kid talks to me.

When John came home from work and saw his
daughter sleeping and her school papers
sprawled all over the family room floor he was
upset.

Dad immediately got mad because they had
an appointment, and he had expected her to
be ready to leave when he got home from
work.

“Julie! What are you doing?” he shouted as
he nudged her with his foot. “You’re so lazy.
Get up! You’re gonna make us late for our
appointment!”

“Stop it, Dad! What are you doing? You’re
acting crazy. Relax! We are not going to be
late.”

“Don’t you talk to me like that! You show no
respect!”

As John was telling me his story he saw no
connection between his disrespectful words
and action s and his daughter’s response. As
far as he was concerned, he had every right to
do and say what he did. But here’s the
problem:

If we want to teach our teens to be
respectful, then we had better look long
and hard at our own behavior as parents.

Our teens will either respond or react to us. If
they are being served with injustice they will
probably be reactive.  

Many times, we are blinded by our own
actions. We may treat our teens
disrespectfully, yet expect them to
respond respectfully in return.

Here are two parenting tips for teaching
our teens to be respectful.

Parenting Tip Number One: Lower your
expectations and accept and work with the
reality of what is in the moment.

For example, when dad came home and saw
his daughter wasn’t ready, he could have
relaxed into his unmet expectation that she
wasn’t waiting at the door and worked from
there. But in this case, he was blinded by his
own agenda and it went downhill fast.

Parenting Tip Number Two: Model the
language and tone of the voice you want to
hear from your child.

For example: if dad had spoken his
disappointment softly and in a neutral tone, his
daughter may have responded differently and
not been reactive.

He could have said something like: “Julie, I
thought you would be ready to go to the
appointment when I got home. Seeing you
asleep and not ready is upsetting because I
am worried that we may be late.”

In the heat of the moment we sometimes
forget what we already know…like the
importance of a considerate tone.   

But the more we practice respect in those
difficult moments, the more likely our teens
will learn to respond with respect.

To learn more parenting tips on how to
Raise a Respectful Teen:

Join BayAreaParent magazine and us,
Patt & Steve Saso, at the following seminar:

 “Steps to Teaching Your Teens Respect”

    Thursday, March 18, 2010
    7 – 9 pm
    Bellarmine College Prep, San Jose (chapel)
 
For tickets call:

   BayAreaParent @ 408.399.4842 ext. 24

Tickets $10 in advance or $20 at the door


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